2.05.2016

recipe for the perfect relationship...

Bahahaha! Valentine's Day is just around the corner, so I thought this post was appropriate.. Above is just one of the homemade cards I have gotten over the years from my redhead...

 Compromise is key. And accepting each other jussssst the way you are. People assume all the time that there is a such thing as a perfect relationship.....Ha!  Well, I don't complain much about the imperfections in mine, really. Whats the use of complaining about something that has proven to always work itself out?
I mean, if we get in a stupid squabble, I will vent, but who doesn't?

When we first decided to move in together, we instinctively knew that we each needed our own spaces. At the time, I was big into sewing clothes, creating things, collecting vintage winter coats, and working on projects. He had a HUGE collection of music, instruments, and equipment that he used to create music. We got a place together where we had our own creative spaces.... Now I can't even imagine having to share only a one bedroom house with him. Our outlets are so very different and our artistic high points are on very different schedules (he is a late-nighter, and I prefer early mornings), that we would actually end up killing each other...

Why such strong words, you ask? Have you ever been on a very long road trip with your bestest friend in the whole wide world? It doesn't matter how much you love and cherish someone, time spent in too close of quarters will magnify every little thing they do that gets on your nerves.... and don't pretend you don't have any annoying traits/ habits... I have plenty! Just to name a few: I could argue with a dead man. I am right 99.9% of the time. I am bossy. I am really hotheaded. I can be a little abrasive when delivering the truth - in other words I am brutally honest. Sometimes I like to talk too much... in the car...when Christian wants to listen to music. I get really upset when on that rare occasion I am 'right on time' with getting ready to go somewhere and Christian is running behind and keeps me from being on time this once...

....but there are many, many things that he loves about me. Things that are specific to me. I love that Christian is a thinker. He is a big romantic. He is the sweetest man in the world. He lets me win debates (most of the time), he makes me gifts for every special occasion, and he says some really profound things. He balances me....and that is exactly what I need.

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